Uninvolved Parenting Style

The uninvolved parenting style is characterised by a low level of control and a lack of reponsiveness to the child. Of the four "normal" parenting styles, it is the least beneficial to the children.

"Do What You Like"

Uninvolved parents don't excert any control over their children and really let them do whatever they like. This parenting style has this in common with the permissive parenting style, but in contrast is not responsive either.

"Whatever....."

The parent using the uninvolved parenting style is one who doesn't really care and isn't in any way focussed on the child's needs. They are indifferent to the child and that will come across loud and clear and their children will be effected severely.

"I'm Busy"

This type of mother always has something better to do than interact and share with her children, even if it's just watching the TV! Her children are a low priority in her life.

"Yeh, Fine!"

Now we've all said yes to our children on occasion just to get them out of our hair, but with the uninvolved parent this behaviour is a common feature of their parenting style. They consistently give the child the non-verbal message that they don't care and this is likely interpreted by the child as them not being good enough.

"Go Play Out"

The child is always sent out to play in all weathers as really the parent does not want to spend any time with them. There is a complete lack of whole family activities like family walks, game or movie nights.

"I Need..."

In the uninvolved parenting style it's all about the needs of the parent, not the needs of the child. This parent is likely a victim of uninvolved parenting and is replicating this style with their own children. They probably have emotional problems themselves, like a low self-esteem and a lack of ambition in life.

Needy Parents

Basically mothers using this style are probably doing it because they weren't taught any better by their own parents. As with all the parenting styles, this one is usually based on how the parents were brought up themselves. That's why it's so important we get it right now so as to break this vicious circle of bad parenting. A far better style to use is authoritative parenting style.

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