Parenting Values?Values are also known as universal qualities or moral virtues. What Are Parenting Values? These values are the set of moral principles and standards by which we bring up our children. They are the things that we live our lives by. Here is a list of values; which do you think are yours?
Where Do We Get Our Parenting Values From?In a word: parents! Yes, our parents taught us our core values by their words, and more importantly their behaviour. In the same way we are imprinting our core values onto our children by not only what we say, but by what we do. An interesting point is that if our words are incongruent with our actions, our children will believe our actions, not our words. The saying "Actions speak louder than words" holds true. If you attended regular religious services as a child, that will also have influenced the development of your personal values. What Are My Values As the biggest influence over the development of our children's core values, we need to ensure we are teaching children the right values. So we first need to examine ourselves. We need to be clear about what our parenting values are and we may want to change some and/or add some new ones. This can be done by making a conscious decision that this new thing, whatever it may be, is now important to you. Imprinting New Values For example, last year I decided that being slim was now important to me. I wrote down in my goals notebook "I have a slim size 12(UK) figure", and put a date by it. Each day I wrote that goal down again. I also put a picture of a slim woman on my vision board, with the same phrase and date underneath. These actions helped to get my new value imprinted into my subconscious which then guided my actions in the direction of my goal. In the same way you can incorporate new values into your life if you want to.
I think the key is conscious parenting, really being aware of what we're doing as mothers on a day to day basis and taking a positive approach. We want our kids to
grow up happy , full of confidence and a healthy self esteem. I also believe it's really powerful to have a written plan; it's almost as if in committing something to paper, you're giving your intention much more power. Making A Parenting Plan Ideally this would be done together with your partner/husband. It's sitting down and and thinking about your child and what their strengths and weaknesses are. Then you can start to think about what kind of values you want to instill and what behaviours you want to encourage.
Bottom line, we want our kids to grow up happy, and that is more likely to happen if they have good values and good self esteem. There are various things they need in order to be happy, including our respect. Run It By Me Again! In summary then, we first need to look at ourselves and our parenting values and behaviour to see what we've been teaching our kids up to now. We need to decide on any changes that need to be made and write down those goals. We can also put them up on a vision board. Then we can set down our parenting plan in writing: thoughts and beliefs that we want our child to have. Then put it all into action. A Little Warning! Don't take on too much all at once as you'll only burn out. Take on one belief or goal at a time, if it's a toughy, break it down into smaller steps. That way you'll keep your motivation high and you'll get to where you want to go. Recommended Site
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