How To Get Confidence

Do you lack confidence as a mother?

But how to get confidence?

Read on to find out about the problems caused by lack of confidence, the

benefits of being confident and how to get confidence.

Confidence is at the core of a successful and happy life. If we don't have confidence and belief in ourselves we will limit ourselves by not attempting new things, not going to new places and not meeting new people. We will miss out on many opportunities to learn, grow and develop. We will stay within our very small comfort zone and, over time, stagnate. I believe that, without self-confidence, we miss out on so much that life has to offer, and we don't fulfill our potential for greatness.

What If We Don't Have It?

Also a lack of confidence can cause us to:

stay in a job we hate

stay in an abusive relationship

be less effective at child discipline

be less happy and fulfilled

not follow through on long-held desires and plans

Definition of Self Confidence

What is self-confidence? What is it all about? Is there really more to be got out of life? I believe there is.

Self Confidence For Women

I believe that women have particular issues with self-confidence, and mothers in especially. It's easy as a mother to come to believe that you're no longer capable of anything big and exciting. It can be easy to get bogged down in running the home and looking after the family.

Personally, as much as I love doing that, it isn't enough for me. I want to leave more of a legacy than three wonderful sons: I want to have a wider impact. So I need self-confidence to take a chance on new ideas and plans. Here's the how to get confidence page for women.

Kids Confidence

In order to develop confidence children need acceptance and love from their parents and to feel that they have a degree of control over their environment. They also need their parents to set the example of confidence and self-belief.

I also think that children need to believe that the world is basically a safe place. I realise this may be contraversial, but I don't think that living in fear is a good thing for anyone and will certainly not build confidence. I think we need to be realistic in our assessment of danger in the world and realise that we only see the rarest, most sensational happenings in the media, and the reality in where we live is likely to be much safer. Here's the how to get confidence page for our kids.

Confidence Affirmations

I have found affirmations and motivational quotes to be really helpful on my journey to a happier and more confident life. I have found that if I plant more positive and affirming statements in my mind, over time the negativity starts to fade away, and not only do I feel happier, but more confident and hopeful about the future. Find some great inspirational life quotes to be inspired and motivated.

Benefits of Having Confidence

Having confidence gives you the strength of character to follow your passion and big ideas, that you would otherwise write off as being impossible for you. You are likely to have greater success in life as you will be more willing to take chances and step out of your comfort zone. All these things are required to attain success in any area of life; all these things require confidence in yourself.

How To Get Confidence

I believe, and have experienced, that a great way to get confidence is to set and achieve goals for yourself. I set a goal to improve my appearance and took small action steps towards my goal every day, and now I'm very happy with the way I look. It was an enormous boost to my confidence to get the body and appearance that I wanted. Every goal is achieveable if you break it down into small enough incremental steps.

SWOT Analysis

The first step on the how to get confidence path is to assess where you are in your life at present. A good tool to help you do this is the SWOT analysis. It is a tool to get you to think about your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. You identify your strengths, talents, skills and things you're good at; and build on them. You identify your weaknesses and mitigate against them: delegation is a good way to do this. You then think about the opportunities that are open to you, and the threats that are out their to get in your way. You could do this thinking about your life in general, or with a specific area of your life in mind.

Goal Setting

Identify an area of your life where you would like to make changes. A useful tool for this is the Wheel of Life which you can get a illustration of by requesting my Stress No More Special Report Basically, you give each area of your life a grade according to how satisfied you are with that area. Common areas to grade are:

intimate relationship

family

fun and social life

career/own business

finances

contribution to society

health and fitness

spiritual and personal growth

From this point you can move on to choose a weak area to work on and you can set a goal to aim for. This goal will need to encapsulate what you want that area of your life to look like (or just one part of that area). You then brainstorm the options for how to achieve your goal and choose the one which feels good for you. Then it's just a case of doing that: consistently, with commitment and determination. A Life Coach can be an invaluable support in this process.

Small Successes

The key is to set small goals to begin with, as stepping stones to bigger ones. That way you will get confidence with every small success and you will feel able to go for more challenging goals and your confidence will grow and grow. I would also encourage you to chart your progress with a graph or photos, or something appropriate to your goal. This will really help you to stay focused on the goal.

The Bottom Line

How to get confidence? Really it's about developing ourselves. Not putting up with the way things are. Making the decision to change your life for the better. Taking small steps in the direction of your ideal life and feeling your confidence build with every success. It is a lifelong journey, but an exciting one.