Authoritative Parenting Style

Authoritative parenting style is the most beneficial to children and is recommended by experts. It is characterised by a high degree of control and a high level of responsiveness. The thing to think of, is of parents as leaders. We really are the people who most shape our children's lives, so we need to teach them to think big and dream big! The authoritative parenting style is the optimum way to do this.

This parent is issue orientated and will work together with their child to solve problems as they arise. They are also rational and manage to keep cool when dealing with their children.

OK, What Do You Think?

There is verbal give and take and the mother is good at listening to her child and being open to, and actively seeking their point of view.

This Is What I Think

The mother using the authoritative parenting style will be keen to reason with the child and to "take them with her" as it were. She will not want to impose her views on the child, but will always prefer where possible to encourage the child to come round to her point of view and see the benefits of her plan.

Why Don't You Want That?

This parent will always be interested to hear the reasons for the child's objections to her proposal. This will be used as an opportunity to teach the child something about the situation, which will enable him to come to a better conclusion ie. that mom is right!

I Need You To Do This Now, But We Can Do That Later

The parent using the authoritative parenting style will always assert their will when absolutely required. At the end of the day they are boss, but it's done with respect for the child and reasoning that the child can perhaps do or have what they want at a later time.

You're Great!

This mother is generous with love affection and praise, frequently affirming her child. She understands that it generally takes at least five positive experiences to undo the damage of a negative experience. So she makes sure she's heavier on the positive than on the negative.

That Is Our Rule

The parent using the authoritative parenting style will be consistent in their enforcement of rules and standards. There will be a constant reinforcement of positive behaviour in the child. The child will feel secure in the regime at home because they know what to expect from their mother.

I'm Sorry, I'm Not Perfect

The authoritative mother will not be afraid to admit that they are not perfect. She will not be afraid to admit to her child when she's made a mistake and will be big enough to say sorry.

You're Old Enough To Do That Now

This parent will place age appropriate demands on the child. She will not expect and demand things that the child is simply not developed enough to achieve, as that is clearly very unfair on the child. It is very useful to have a basic knowledge of child development and milestones, but also be aware that every child develops and learns at a different rate.

The Best Parenting Style

This is the optimum parenting style as the child is in no doubt of the love and respect of their parents. They have a clear understanding of what is expected of them and their views are respected. These children learn to be rounded, confident and happy people. Hopefully we're using this style most of the time!