The purpose of this website is to help you to overcome your struggles and gain confidence in your innate abilities as a mother. I want to help you to enjoy being a mom and be the best mom that you can be, and to deal effectively with the every day stresses and strains. I wish to share with you how to utilize the power within you to take back control of your life and make of it what you want it to be.

Sometimes We Struggle

Bringing up children is the most important job in the world, and really challenging: we all need the help and support of someone who's been there.

I've Made Mistakes

I've learned a lot about being a mother over the last 12 years, had many good times, and made lots of mistakes too! I know what it's like to be a parent in difficult circumstances and have found ways to overcome the difficulties I've encountered.

I've Hit Rock Bottom

Since my first child was born prematurely I have had to deal with:

my marriage breakdown while heavily pregnant,

the divorce from an abusive husband, contact problems,

second marriage,

birth of half-sibling,

my children's disclosures of abuse by their father,

my ex being given full custody of my two eldest and

two bouts of depression.

And Picked Myself Up Again

I have experienced a bad marriage and a good one, and being a single mother. My ex is Peruvian so I have also experienced cross-cultural marriage and parenting of mixed-race children. Reflecting on all my challenges, I found that most, if not all of my difficulties had their roots in my thoughts and beliefs. I was seeing things in a certain way, and that was causing me to feel in a certain way and therefore behave in a certain way. If I could change my beliefs and thoughts about a situation; I could change my feelings about the situation and my behaviour, and remedy the situation.

To Be A Better Mom I Need To Become A Better Person

I'm passionate about personal development and I'm fascinated with how personal and spiritual growth applies to motherhood. Parenting is such hard work that it's easy to get bogged down in all the mundane day to day busy-ness. There's the home to run, the family to feed, people to transport all over the place, we may also have paid work. Our responsibilities can sometimes feel endless and so time-consuming. We often focus all our energy on our children and and the stuff we have to get done and neglect ourselves, but....

Is that what's best for children?

Is that what's best for you?

I'm hoping to answer that question on the pages of this website.

We're All Different, Yet All Amazing!

Of course there are as many different moms as there are proverbial grains of sand in the Sahara; we,re all very different, but we have many hopes, aims and challenges in common.We all want to be happy, healthy and successful, and we want the same for our kids. Don't you think? At the same time, I guess most of us struggle (at least sometimes) with a healthy diet, exercise, disciplining the children and giving them quality time etc. etc. Our circumstances differ, but our aims are the same.